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Next Chapter #ThrowbackThursday

MoPitkins_MamaFor the better part of the last 18 years, I’ve lived and breathed the ‘Mom Movement’. Since forming the first ‘Mom Rock’ band in 1997, with a specific goal of setting the struggles, dreams and desires of mom-culture to music, my band ‘Housewives On Prozac‘ put a whole new spin on domestically intriguing themes.

We were wooed by Hollywood, starred in the indie film ‘Momz Hot Rocks‘ by Kate Perotti, played to millions on Good Morning America and wrote and performed our own rock musical called ‘Shut Up And Drive’ in a six week run of an equity production here in New York.

When Mamapalooza staked out a place in the stratosphere, we were first out of the gate with a strong mission to create an entire culture of Mom-based business and art. I guess, looking around, we’ve been more successful than I ever could have imagined. Mom bloggers abound. Mom-made businesses are claiming their real estate in the small business and corporate world faster than you can blink. Café Mom has gone on to become a phenomenon, and I have stopped having to describe to people what ‘Mom Rock’ is. (I sold the saying to Ephemera in 2004 so they could create buttons and magnets that say ‘Moms Rock’).

WestchesterParksMamaFast forward to our 14th Mamapalooza Festival season.

In 2015 we’ll begin another year of highlighting women’s accomplishments in the area of music, literature, comedy, entrepreneurship and much, much more at events here in New York City and in the media we create online and in print.

Most of our work has been extremely exciting. There were years when camera crews and magazine writers followed us everywhere we went. Those relationships have mellowed into long-standing friendships and partnerships with press around the country.

The women who formed the core of the original performers and event coordinators have gone on, in most cases to have amazing careers. They have each exceeded expectations and the list is so long: Judy Davids, ‘Rock Star Mommy’, Sue Fabisch, multi-talented Off-Broadway artist, Tina deVaron making Mom Music professionally everyday, Patrice Moerman, who now teaches for the School Of Rock, Tiffany Petrossi of Rockin’ Moms, Jennifer Edwards who writes for the Huffington Post, Alyson Palmer, internationally acclaimed rock star with the band BETTY, and their newly formed non-profit, BETTYRISING, and REW who’s created a weekly internet phenomenon with her ‘REW and WHO‘ show in NYC and so many more to mention. Even the ones I’ve lost touch with are still in my heart.

As I look around today at what the ‘Mom Movement’ has become and where it might go next, I can only say three things:

1) While giving voice to women and specifically mothers has been my life’s work, I am disappointed at how many of those voices have only chosen to join the chorus of consumer directives. When my team sat in the offices of FOX, and they wanted to create a TV show depicting a battle of the Mom Rock bands – winner gets a washing machine, I said no. In case my reasons for that aren’t obvious, I wanted the Mom Movement to challenge stereotypes and empower women. I wanted women to work together to create better family systems and more cooperative collaboration and I wanted women to be economically recognized for the work they perform as mothers.

When I see the Mommy Bloggers with their cartoon caricatures on the web-headers, touting mounds of baby advice and discount coupons, I get frustrated with the direction and the messaging.

2) This leads me to an even clearer place for Mamapalooza and for my personal messaging. We are decidedly NOT status quo. We, myself, the women I work with, the teams I create, the events we empower, the message we bring, has to have deeper undertones that not only offer reflection on how to live better lives, how to honor the woman at the center of motherhood, but also how to continue to understand and respect the authentic individual voices that make up each family and community. We are complex. Our lives are not one-dimensional. We have issues. They are:

a) Violence against women is still rampant around the world and in our homes.

b) Feminism still has a bad rap and we are devoted to changing that. Mothers in particular are seen as “‘virtuous vessels’ who must be good housewives, careful of their stores, and obedient to their husbands.” I am quoting Socrates here. So, whatever lamentations have fallen from my lips regarding the 50’s housewife, are ill conceived. The reality is, we are talking about a collective concept that dates back to 750 B.C. that defines and limits women.

c) Mothers don’t get paid for what they do. In fact, they get economically punished. Work-Life Balance continues to be an issue for women in particular. That’s why organizations like Moms Rising, MOM-mentum, and Demeter Press inspire and inform us. The financial issues facing mothers are critical. “A college educated woman will earn almost half a million dollars less that a college educated man.” Or, this, ” All too often, women come out on the losing end.” -Smart Money Oct. 2010. The work for caregivers, and especially mothers, has to be reexamined and we simply must find better ways to financially empower the people who give birth and raise our children.

d) We are not our children. We are vibrant, concerned, complicated, vivacious, intense, caring, concerned and talented individuals who are doing our best to make our way in the world. We are caregivers, mothers and others. As Ercia Jong recently wrote in her Mother Madness article for the Wall Street Journal, “Bearing and rearing children has come to be seen as life’s greatest good. Never mind that there are now enough abandoned children on the planet to make breeding unnecessary.”

While I don’t see Motherhood as a vocation disappearing anytime soon, we do need to be ‘green’ in our thinking and wary of our planet. We need to find ways as women to empower ourselves and give up on the notion that becoming a mother is that thing we do when we don’t know what else to do. And, if and when our destiny is so blessed as to procreate, let’s not forget that we are first and foremost, people. Women specifically, who had a life before our children were born and will have a life after our children are grown, and that each of us has one precious life that is ‘our’ life. It should never be forgotten or neglected. We much keep our own candles burning in the midst of reflecting others.

3) My last and third point in this article is this; I am tired. I have been carrying this ‘Circus Without A Tent’ across America and the world with every breath I take, every day, day in and day out, since 1997. When I became an event coordinator and then a businesswoman, and finally a publisher and promoter, media mentor and then a graduate student, and finally the biggest piece of all – which is finding the next-stage physical home for the Museum Of Motherhood. I can honestly say, I am physically, mentally and emotionally spent.

I’m moving forward cautiously and slowing into the 2015 season. I love what I do. I love the women I work with. I love bringing beauty, music, empowerment and community experiences to the planet. I’m just not sure how to keep doing everything as I have been, so I’m looking for some new ideas, welcoming small miracles and continued strength and yes…. I need some help. Thanks to Zhen Heinemann from Riverside Park South for helping to coordinate the New York City event this spring.

Bless you all ~ Joy

I NEED HEALTH CARE REFORM NOW

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I am Joy Rose and I support a health care ‘option’. ‘Option’ being the key word. We need change and we need choices. As a kidney transplant recipient, Lupus survivor, divorcee and mother of four, I will be one of the ‘uninsurable’ Americans beginning 2011 when my Cobra plan is up. I developed Lupus during pregnancy, and lost my health insurance during the divorce process. My story is one of millions. If you believe in the good work we do at Mamapalooza, then help me stay on the planet, and keep my health insurance strong. I don’t want to be another sad statistic and I care about women and families. One great place where you can find out more about health care reform is momsrising.org. RAISE YOUR VOICE! STAND UP FOR HEALTH CARE REFORM TODAY.

Moms Unite For Mothers Day 2009

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Moms Rising Video for Mother’s Day is sooo cool…. It’s gone viral in the millions. You can personalize a video for your favorite Mom here and share with the world: MOM OF THE YEAR

Also REGISTER your STORY at The Museum Of Motherhood, honoring (M)others in perpetuity.

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MAMAPALOOZA joined CODE PINK in Washington DC this Mother’s Day, where Carol Lester and Joy Rose channeled music for peace and a message of love for (M)others and children everywhere.

Check out Carol holding a gorgeous Daisy Rock Guitar!

Mothers Unite To Break Down Barriers

By Joy Rose and Mamapalooza

Reprinted from First Wives World (See My Blog Here)

Last Saturday in Toronto, the Motherhood Movement was officially launched. Camera in hand, juggling cables and questions, I shot 30 hours of video, from the hip, as I tried to get answers from some of the world’s foremost feminists. The subjects included mothering, violence, militarism, war, and social justice; mothers for equal rights; virtual mothering; feminists for a gift economy; maternal depression, and queer parenting.

“Wow,” you say? Or, maybe “Why”?

Perhaps I’m trying to sort through my own confusion and ambivalence about terms like “feminist mother,”  “single mother,” and “girlfriend,” and to capture this unique moment in Herstory.

After three days at the conference, sponsored by the Association for Research on Mothering at York University in Toronto, I was inspired and exhausted.

Let me say, I was the only one there with pink hair.

Some 300 women met in Seneca Falls, New York, in 1848, to initiate the suffragist movement and win the right for women to vote, a right that did not come to be until 1920 with the passage of the 19th Amendment. This gathering was much larger, the first International Motherhood Movement meeting. Here were women who cared passionately about their roles as workers, wives, and mothers. What’s amazing is that the subject of partnering was just as hot as the subject of parenting.

There wasn’t one attendee who spoke of wanting to erase the entire male population. Generally speaking, participants had a warm spot for the opposite sex.

With 20 organizations and hundreds of individuals presenting papers, studies and speeches, there were, of course, bound to be differences.

But primarily attendees were looking for commonalities. We were passionately looking for ways to make the world a better place. For a glimpse of some of the participants, taek a look at this short video I shot.

Among the groups participating were Momsrising.org, LiteraryMama.com, Mamapalooza.com, MuseumOfMotherhood.org, MamaZine.com, MothersCenters.org, MothersandMore.org, and MothersActingUp.org.

We listened and learned. Sometimes we merely tried to listen. Amy Richards, author of Opting In: Having a Child Without Losing Yourself, talked so fast I could barely keep up.

I will be working to edit the 30 hours of video I shot to show those who weren’t there highlights of what she said, and outline some of the defining academic ideas today on motherhood. I’m back at my desk simply marveling that I have a business card of a feminist ambassador from Uganda.

I’m so glad I went, and I’m also glad I’m back home with the kids. The children were pestering me for dinner while the new boyfriend was chatting with me on the phone. It was back to the multitasking of working, mothering and partnering.